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Twenty-one years in the Navy will change how you think about emergencies. Not because you become paranoid, but because you become realistic. You learn that emergencies don’t announce themselves, systems fail at the worst moments, and the time to prepare is always before you need to.
That perspective is surprisingly rare in our hyper-connected world. And it’s why most digital emergency plans will fail when they’re needed most.
Consider what most families depend on daily:
Now consider what happens when the power goes out. Or the cell towers go down. Or a ransomware attack takes out your cloud provider. Or a natural disaster overwhelms the local infrastructure.
In the Navy, we called this “degraded operations.” You plan for the scenario where your primary systems are unavailable. You train for it. You build alternatives.
Most families have never thought about it.
Navy damage control training is fundamentally about managing cascading failures. A fire doesn’t stay a fire - it creates smoke, which impairs visibility, which slows response, which lets the fire spread. A flood doesn’t stay a flood - it shorts electrical systems, which causes more failures, which impairs your ability to respond.
The same cascading logic applies to civilian emergencies:
Effective preparedness breaks these cascades. You identify dependencies and create alternatives for each failure point.
After years of thinking about this, I’ve organized family preparedness into three layers:
What works when the internet goes down but power is on?
What works when power is out but you’re still at home?
What works when you have to leave?
This is why Genesis - my family management platform - includes a full emergency preparedness module. Not as an afterthought, but as a core component.
The module includes:
That last point is critical. An emergency app that requires internet is useless in most actual emergencies. Genesis is designed to work when nothing else does.
Here’s an uncomfortable truth: most families have never practiced their emergency response.
In the Navy, we drilled constantly. General quarters. Damage control. Man overboard. Fire. Flood. We practiced until response was automatic, because in a real emergency there’s no time to think - you execute from muscle memory.
Families need the same approach, scaled appropriately. Not military drills, but regular practice:
Genesis includes training tracking for exactly this reason. Preparedness isn’t a checklist you complete once - it’s a capability you maintain through regular practice.
Location matters enormously for emergency planning. A family in tornado alley faces different risks than a family in earthquake country or hurricane zones.
Genesis includes AI-powered risk assessment based on location. It sounds like a feature, but it’s really a philosophy: your emergency plan should match your actual risks, not some generic template.
When I managed 47 facilities across North America, I learned that local conditions vary enormously. The same logic applies to family preparedness. Generic advice is better than nothing, but specific preparation based on your actual situation is far more effective.
Individual family preparedness is important, but community coordination multiplies effectiveness. In the Navy, a ship’s damage control capability comes from crews working together, not individual sailors acting alone.
Genesis includes community coordination features for exactly this reason. Connecting with neighborhood response teams, sharing resources, coordinating evacuations. In a real emergency, communities that work together survive better than isolated individuals.
If this seems overwhelming, start small:
The goal isn’t to become a doomsday prepper. The goal is basic competence - the ability to handle common emergencies without falling apart.
The most important change isn’t buying gear or downloading apps. It’s mental. You need to start thinking about dependencies and alternatives.
Every time you use a digital service, ask: what happens if this isn’t available? Then make sure you have an answer.
That’s not paranoia. That’s operational realism. The same mindset that kept Navy ships running will keep your family safe when things go wrong.
Genesis Emergency Prep is part of the Genesis family management platform, currently in development. If you’re interested in family emergency preparedness or want to discuss these concepts further, connect with me on LinkedIn.